Are you always grateful for the things that you have in your life? Do you surround yourself with things that you truly desire? If not, maybe it is time to declutter.
Have you ever tried practising gratitude?
I did. On some of the days, I was able to connect with the practice and feel a deep sense of gratitude in my heart. Other times, I sucked at it.
It seemed like when everything in life is roses and butterflies, it is effortless to connect to the practice, but then things don’t go according to the plan, ohh dear. 🙂 The conversation in the head starts… but if only I had this.
Does this sound familiar? I am pretty sure I am not the only one.
So I started asking myself, what is it that is stopping me from connecting to the practice on a deep soulful level. I realised that when I was trying to be grateful for the relationship that was falling apart, even though it taught me a lot of lessons, it has also opened up a lot of wounds. Facing those wounds and being grateful for them became challenging.
The Universe was bringing the opportunity to grow and learn from the lessons that this relationship was teaching me.
The similar feelings had been rising up for the gym business that I was running at the time. Even though I have enjoyed setting up a brand new gym business from scratch and learned so much from experience, it has never been backed by a deep desire to run a gym. It was something that my ex-partner wanted, and I just followed along.
I felt that my gratitude practice was lacking something. Most of the things that I was surrounding myself with didn’t come with my own deep desire to have them in my life. I just followed what others thought was going to be good for me. I followed the latest trends because I wanted to feel a sense of belonging. I followed what was acceptable by society because of deep fear to be an outcast and be rejected.
All of these experiences taught me a lot and opened up a new path to self-discovery. The more I was connecting to my true self, by letting go all the limiting programming that led me to create these patterns in my life in the first place, the more I was connecting to my true desires.
When we surround ourselves with an organised clutter, which doesn’t bring emotional value, we feel drained. It seems like we have everything that we need, I certainly did, but I lacked happiness and fulfilment.
The more I learned how to let go, not only the clutter that I was surrounding myself with but also people, relationships and my gym business the more space I have created to welcome in only what would light me up and bring the best in me.
I started going on an intuitive shopping spree only buying something for myself when I felt a deep connection with the item. Do you remember yourself as a kid in a candy store? Do you recall the excitement that you have experienced back then? I would look for a similar form of excitement when shopping too. This way, I would only surround myself with things that I absolutely love. And this is a minimalist approach to me, because when we buy things that we love we will not only save the planet with the reduced consumption, but we will be more grateful for everything that we have.
Have you ever read Marie Kondo book A Secret Magic of Tidying Up? She shares this fantastic exercise for decluttering. Firstly you would choose a category you want to declutter, for instance, clothes. Then you would put all the clothes you have in one pile and start by taking one piece at a time and asking it if it brings you joy or not. If it does, you would keep it, and if it doesn’t, you would donate it, sell it or recycle it.
How can you declutter your own life using a similar approach that Marie Kondo shares so you also could connect to a deep gratitude practice and deep burning desire that you have?
Where would you start? Clearing limiting beliefs? Disconnecting from the relationships that drain you? Decluttering your closet or your pantry?